Defecting in Place

Defecting in Place

Defecting in place isn’t about behaving in a passive/aggressive manner to get the point of your unhappiness across. It is about being clear about who you are, what your goals are, stating your purpose, and staying on course in living out that purpose, no matter what the sabotage or resistance that comes your way.

Pastoral Imagination and Emotional Intelligence

February 16, 2017—It is no longer a secret that faith communities, particularly mainline denominations, are in a precarious state and facing an uncertain future. Some evidences of the sea of changes include declining church membership; congregational financial instability; fluctuating enrollment…

Mindfulness: a resource for differentiation

“Mindfulness provides a simple but powerful route for getting ourselves unstuck, back into touch with our own wisdom and vitality.

Sibling Position

My younger brother told me recently that one of his most enduring childhood memories is chasing after me on his tricycle while I and my friends shot away from him on our bikes.

Multigenerational Transmission

I offer three reasons why I believe the multi-generational transmission process (coupled with the notion of the emotional field) is the most important piece of Bowen Theory.

LIM Faculty Member Elaine Boomer Reflects on 20 Years Workshop Experience

In my opinion, the Leadership in Ministry program offers one of the most effective venues for actualizing personal and professional growth.

Six “Tells” of a Differentiated Leader

December 26, 2016—I had an interesting conversation with a doctoral student during a recent trip. He was at the proposal writing stage of his study but struggling with putting his thoughts together. He said he wanted to “study something about…

Six Responses of Differentiated Leaders

Especially in times of acute systemic anxiety and symptomatic reactivity, effective leaders will work on focusing on the repertoire that will help them navigate the storm.

For the Bookshelf: The Equipping Church

December 5, 2016—In The Equipping Church, author Sue Mallory takes her readers on the journey she and her pastor, Charles, went on as they brought their vision for Brentwood Presbyterian Church to reality. This book is a wonderful resource for…

For the Bookshelf: Letting Go, by Roy Phillips

November 28, 2016—Roy Phillips’ Letting Go (Herndon, Virginia: The Alban Institute, 1999) starts with the assertion that ministers need to “let go” of their need to control every aspect of their congregation, and to let the members take charge. Phillips talks…

For the bookshelf seeds for the future by Adam Tyler

The Five People You Need as a Leader

You may discover these five people within your organization as work colleagues. Others may exist outside of the job environment. Regardless, they each will contribute something important to your success as a leader.

Lessons from a Yarn Ball

When I selected an activity for my elementary school students using a ball of yarn, I was not expecting how much I myself would learn in the process.

When Triangles are “Bad”

October 3, 2016—The Leadership in Ministry workshops at The Center for Lifelong Learning uses Bowen Theory (or Bowen Family Systems Theory—BFST) as a framework for interpreting the dynamics of congregational and organizational life, and, to help participants work on…

Don’t Do These 10 Things When Dealing With Reactivity

September 26, 2016—All leaders will deal with reactivity at one point or another. It can be caused by a proposed change from the leader, it may be the result of direct and necessary action taken by the leader, or, it…

Five Personal Resources for Leadership

August 1, 2016—Purists of Bowen Family Systems Theory (BFST) tend to eschew notions or frameworks of individualistic perspectives to therapy or interpreting families or organizations (like “personality type” or “traits” schemas). They prefer a consistent “systems” approach that focuses on…

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