Common Sense in Pastoral Leadership
By Israel Galindo, Associate Dean for Lifelong Learning and Director of Online Education.
March 23, 2015—Emotional Intelligence is a field of research currently being applied to pastoral leadership, to great benefit. I think it holds great promise to effective pastoral leadership because the nature of leadership in the relational context of congregations is more about understanding emotional process than about anything else typically associated with what constitutes “leadership” (management skills, education, intellect, good looks, personality style, etc.). But I think in many cases, “common sense” may be as valuable an asset for the leaders as a high score on any emotional intelligence inventory.
Here are some common sense factors that too many congregational leaders, whether pastors or staff, seem to not “get”:
- Visit in the homes of your members.
- Accept people where they are on their journey of faith.
- Be sensitive to the problems and realities of “lay” members who live in a “secular” world. While clergy work for a living, they tend to forget most of their congregational members work different for their living.
- Learn when to speak and when to keep your mouth shut.
- Be tactful. Never embarrass another person—even if they deserve it.
- Greet people when they are in church.
- Never take sides in personal issues between church members. Ever.
- Be responsible in keeping confidences, but don’t get caught in the “bind of confidentiality.”
- Listen to your critics—they are not always 100% wrong.
- Apologize when you know you’re in the wrong.
- Visit your members in the hospital and those who are shut-ins.
- Be present with family members when someone in the family is in surgery.
- Be a responsible steward of your money—including your financial giving to the church.
- As often as possible, express genuine appreciation and encouragement to members and staff.
If those sound rather basic and self-evident it’s because they are. Anyone with “common sense” will do those things. But that’s the point: more pastors and staff lose their effectiveness in ministry (and lose a congregation) by lacking the common sense to do those things.
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Israel Galindo is Associate Dean for Lifelong Learning and Director of Online Education at the Columbia Theological Seminary. Formerly, he was Dean at the Baptist Theological Seminary at Richmond. He is the author of the bestseller, The Hidden Lives of Congregations (Alban), Perspectives on Congregational Leadership (Educational Consultants), and A Family Genogram Workbook (Educational Consultants), with Elaine Boomer and Don Reagan.
His books on Christian education include The Craft of Christian Teaching (Judson), How to be the Best Christian Study Group Leader (Judson), Planning for Christian Education Formation (Chalice), and A Christian Educator’s Book of Lists (S&H).