March 7, 2016—I met up with some old friends recently, who’d brought along some of their friends I appreciated meeting. It didn’t take long to get to that awkward point in the conversation that follows the “What do you do for a living?” Well, maybe not awkward for most jobs, but typically for the ones I’ve held (funeral home manager, local church clergy, and now seminary professor). At least people clean up their language.
At one point one of my new acquaintances asked why I still go to church. I gave her my reasons. Then, she gave me her reasons for not going to church. I didn’t find her rationale pass much for reasons, more like excuses, really. They reminded me of the list a pastor came up with after getting fed up with the excuses parishioners offered as to why they didn’t attend worship services. He countered with “Ten Reasons Why I Never Wash” in the Sunday bulletin:
The recent attention to “nones” and “dones,” suggest there may be legitimate reasons for not attending church. This is troubling to many, particularly those whose investment to congregational life is a significant part of their spirituality. For lifelong church goers, it can be almost inconceivable that persons of faith do not attend church (or, attend MY church). As one who visits many churches as part of my work, I must admit churches tend to give visitors many reasons for not coming back: ignoring their presence (a lack of hospitality), poor corporate worship experiences, poor sermons, confusing church buildings (I once tried four doors before I was able to get into a church on a Sunday morning), no parking, etc.
Certain populations will find it difficult to connect with most congregations, or, to find what they need spiritually and socially: those married with no children, single adults, persons with transportation challenges, seekers and sages, spiritual misfits, etc. Let’s admit is, not every church is for everybody.
Do you have legitimate reasons for not attending church?
Does your church make it too easy for people to make excuses for not attending?
Israel Galindo is Associate Dean for Lifelong Learning and Director on Online Education at the Columbia Theological Seminary. Formerly, he was Dean at the Baptist Theological Seminary at Richmond. He is the author of the bestseller, The Hidden Lives of Congregations (Alban), Perspectives on Congregational Leadership (Educational Consultants), and A Family Genogram Workbook (Educational Consultants), with Elaine Boomer and Don Reagan.
His books on Christian education include Mastering the Art of Instruction,The Craft of Christian Teaching (Judson), How to be the Best Christian Study Group Leader (Judson), Planning for Christian Education Formation (Chalice), and A Christian Educator’s Book of Lists (S&H), and Theories of Learning for Christian Educators and Theological Faculty.