Why Bowen Theory is Useless

Why Bowen Theory is Useless

November 12, 2018—Bowen Family Systems Theory (BFST), or “Bowen Theory,” continues to grow in its interest to, and influence among, clergy, denominational leaders, and seminaries. I think this is a good thing, overall. Many have found in BFST a frame…

Why I Do This Work Called Bowen Theory

October 29, 2018—I learned about Bowen Theory in seminary and following it through the pastor with whom I served and several ministers who “practiced” the theory and participated in workshops called Leadership in Ministry (LIM). While in seminary, my professors…

Like a First Born

October 15, 2018—A fellow Bowen Theory colleague recently told me, “You’re thinking about this like a first born,” which was completely correct. In that given situation, I had made a list of what needed to be done, gathered information, analyzed…

The “Window of Tolerance”: A Tool For Self-Regulation

October 1, 2018—Psychiatrist Dan Siegel developed a model called the “Window of Tolerance” in 1999 to describe an area in which each person is able to maintain emotional regulation, think clearly, and function effectively. Each person has their own window…

When We Can’t Take Our Own Advice

September 17, 2018—We’ve all done it; we have all recommended that a church member, client, or patient take advice that we ourselves find hard to follow. We advise them to establish healthy boundaries with family members, to maintain self-care plans,…

15 Most Common Anxiety Triggers in Congregations

August 27, 2018—It’s no secret that congregations experience times of anxiety. Those periods of acute anxiety can be triggered by any number of events, conditions, or situations. Here are the 15 most common anxiety triggers in a congregation (in no…

Maybe the Problem is With You

July 30, 2018—Have you ever heard a pastor say, “Why is it that no matter what church I go to I always end up with the same bunch of @&#* idiots?!” If you’ve had a string of dysfunctional churches, the…

Thriving in Ministry

July 11, 2018—We believe thriving in ministry is theologically connected to a commitment to continual growth and maturation, individually and as a minister: growth as a person of faith, growth in interpersonal relationships, and continued growth in ministry competences—in short,…

Why You Can’t Fix Some Church Committees

February 19, 2018—Congregations are, by their nature, authentic communities of faith—despite the fact that they are also organizations. That’s an insight worth keeping in mind for every congregational leader. The tendency for leaders too often is to address congregational issues…

Unraveling Wicked Problems

February 5, 2018—One of the most critical skills leaders need, arguably now more than ever, is that of problem solving. The challenges facing congregations and organizations continue to become more technologically complex, socially entangled, costly, and multi-faceted. It is evident…

Sabbatical as Fitting Room—Part 2

January 8, 2018—This is PART II of a two part reflection on pastoral sabbaticals from James Lamkin, Senior pastor at Northside Drive Baptist Church, Atlanta GA. (PART I HERE)

The clothing store in my small hometown of Arcadia, Louisiana,…

The Sabbatical as Fitting Room—Part 1

January 1, 2018—This is PART I of a two part reflection on pastoral sabbaticals from James Lamkin, Senior pastor at Northside Drive Baptist Church, Atlanta GA.

The clothing store in my small hometown of Arcadia, Louisiana, had a mirror in…

Distributive Leadership

December 4, 2017—Leadership, by its nature, is an isolating enterprise. Leaders need to stand apart, sometimes they stand alone; often leadership is a lonely state of being. There are organizations, churches and non-profits included, that take a different approach by…

Choosing Principles over Relationships

November 27, 2017—This is one of those rules that at first pass sounds “anti-Christian” and counter-intuitive. We are taught that relationship is at the heart of what it means to be Christian and at the center of what it means…

Leadership Lessons from Baboons

November 13, 2017—Robert Sapolsky, the hirsute professor of neurology and neurosurgery at Stanford University, has been studying stress in primate populations for years (he is also a master lecturermany a classroom professor can learn a thing or two watching…

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